to peter: But if i had my druthers, I prefer open and shut cases. You'll have to tell me how you make out the day before you reach your 95 year old life expectancy.
to peter: Dreams may not return, but other situations may come up in your life and bring up feelings similar to what you felt with mom's death. All I'm saying, is that I don't believe "issues" are an open and shut case. I think issues are in constant evolution of being processed, and what looks to be complete resolution, is just understanding and acceptance in the moment, and resolution in remission, until the next phase of growth unfolds.
to peter: No, we are using the same term. I believe you can come to a place of acceptance and peace. However, I believe that there are deeper and deeper layers of averse feelings/acceptance to experience regarding the same circumstance.
to peter: Oh -- one other example. In addition to the tingling I feel during this closure process, afterward, my mind is clear. And new ideas crop up that should have been obvious but which were apparently buried beneath the latent aversions. For example, after I experienced closure about my college sporting career, an idea came to me about getting my teammates on those teams together next summer to celebrate each other. We had a great group of guys. It will be the first time in 20+ years many of us will have seen each other.
to peter: One quick example of what I mean here: I've read that one major purpose of dreams is to resolve stressful circumstances in our lives. In the first couple of years after my mom died, I would experience wistful dreams of my mom from time to time. But since I've come to the beliefs about life and death that I share with you, these dreams have not returned.
I think you might be using the term "closure" differently from what I'm talking about. I'm referring to any residual aversive feelings within myself about a circumstance. For me, "closure" means I no longer harbor aversive or attached feelings about the circumstance. Instead, I feel acceptance and peace.
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to peter: But if i had my druthers, I prefer open and shut cases. You'll have to tell me how you make out the day before you reach your 95 year old life expectancy.
to drLove: Well said. I guess since it's all in the future, I won't know until I get there.
to peter: Dreams may not return, but other situations may come up in your life and bring up feelings similar to what you felt with mom's death. All I'm saying, is that I don't believe "issues" are an open and shut case. I think issues are in constant evolution of being processed, and what looks to be complete resolution, is just understanding and acceptance in the moment, and resolution in remission, until the next phase of growth unfolds.
to peter: No, we are using the same term. I believe you can come to a place of acceptance and peace. However, I believe that there are deeper and deeper layers of averse feelings/acceptance to experience regarding the same circumstance.
to peter: Oh -- one other example. In addition to the tingling I feel during this closure process, afterward, my mind is clear. And new ideas crop up that should have been obvious but which were apparently buried beneath the latent aversions. For example, after I experienced closure about my college sporting career, an idea came to me about getting my teammates on those teams together next summer to celebrate each other. We had a great group of guys. It will be the first time in 20+ years many of us will have seen each other.
to peter: One quick example of what I mean here: I've read that one major purpose of dreams is to resolve stressful circumstances in our lives. In the first couple of years after my mom died, I would experience wistful dreams of my mom from time to time. But since I've come to the beliefs about life and death that I share with you, these dreams have not returned.
I think you might be using the term "closure" differently from what I'm talking about. I'm referring to any residual aversive feelings within myself about a circumstance. For me, "closure" means I no longer harbor aversive or attached feelings about the circumstance. Instead, I feel acceptance and peace.