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How-to: Coaching Your Own Kid

Posted April 11, 2007, by randy1

We all love our kids and some of us love sports and those who do will undoubtedly end up coaching - but how do we coach our own kid?

Ingredients:

1.  Committment

2.  Positive Attitude

3.  Be Objective but not too Objective

4.  Create a Safe Environment

5.  Consistency

6.  Love and Enjoy what you're doing

Steps:

1.  Devise a plan that clearly identifies where you want to go as a group and stick with it.

2.  No matter how bad things are going or how bad your child is playing, stay positive - you don't have to lie to them but remain upbeat.

3.  For parents who are coaching their own kids, they will tend to do one of two things:  favour their own child too much or be overly critical (ie. too objective) - try to find the balance.

4.  If the kids feel they are safe and able to make mistakes without fear of repercussions, learning is so much quicker.

5.  Try to be even-handed with all the players including your own child so that everyone, including your own child, feels welcome and loved even when they are doing badly.

6.  Kids know a fraud when they see one and they especially know when a coach is going through the motions - do it because you love it not out of obligation to your child.

 

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drLove (3 years ago)

Hi randy1. I took the liberty of adding a photo to your wonderful recipe. Not wishing to impose on your creativity, please feel free to delete the photo I have submitted and leave it blank, or change it to one you would rather see there.


peter (3 years ago)

Thanks! Our kid is still a toddler so I can't follow his Recipe yet. Need to get a "Print This" or "Clip This" feature up to save it in a file that I can refer to when the time comes.


drLove (3 years ago)

I like when you talk about creating a safe environment where kids can learn without (negative) repercussions. To your list I would add this: Cheer and root for every team member and make a big deal about the things each player does well. My husband and I coached our daughter's basketball team when she was in grade 6. She happened to be the least talented player on the team (plus the shortest). On paper it was definately not a winning combination!! However, we expected all the girls to participate equally and to learn all of the skills we were teaching. We rooted with enthusiasm for each girl, not one more than the other. Our daughter often tried to get out of doing many of the drills we were running because mom and dad were coaching and she figured we would be lenient with her. We told her that it was going to be 5 extra laps around the gym unless she decided to join in with doing the drills!!




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